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When a person irritating me then what should i do,scold him/beat him or just ignor him.But it is really difficult to ignor.So what should i do?
ReplyDelete:--------Need a solution or decision or just a positive answer to your reaction. It depends on that. There is nothing 100 % right or wrong while doing any physical work.
DeleteWhy do you feel that "it is wrong to beat or scold ". After all if you just look at the working process " it just one hand goes and press others face or any parts. So what? Or one word is going to another Ear. So what is Wrong? So why do you need solution and confused.
But Reality is that "Something in us says that perhaps this situation could have been avoided and could have managed in other way.. Isn't it. Think. Yes, in reality there is one child exists in every one of us. and being child it wants to enjoy every moment,needs a harmonious environment, it's very nature is self giving. So all these reactions like scolding or beating and even thinking wrong about somebody hurts this child. So when feels that "oh I should not do this,then one should not." There is no question of morality or so called Good or Bad. Because our mind is capable of giving reason to justify all our action. Don't you know "people , even after murder also, can justify by reason. That it was necessary or even can say "God wanted it". These are explanations of Mind. But as we grow that child is lost within us and mind rules. Even i"ll say "We deliberately Kill that child in us by not listening it's voice and justifying all our decisions." But still that child comes to picture Whenever we do things in opposite to nature of that child.
It is not the work, But the Intention which matters.
Now after building this practical theory What to do When situation is Really Unavoidable-----------
1: If person is younger than you, you can sweetly tell him that "pls don't do this because it is not right to irritate any one. So we are strongly opposing the saying"Tension lene ka nahi, Deneka" . We"ll solve problems,not create it."
2:If person is elder and you can't avoid, then say with a smile that "Sir, I am a little fellow by heart and It is my fault that your valuable words are creating wrong intention in me for you. But I respect your view" . And then give a big Smile.The person will die there.
3: Follow your heart and try to cultivate a power to see the beings who is behind the person.When one can able to see the original beings who made that person as an instrument to irritate you, then no longer there remains any personal conflict. You became sorry for that person because that person being an instrument of those forces lost some of it's power.
4:Then every irritating situation becomes an Occasion to test "How much peace,equanimity and personality" We have so much developed.
5:After cultivating these power --We can really give a heartily smile. Yes then we thanks that person from our inner side, as he helped to know our own Inner stability.
6:Another thing " We should never become Football of others Opinion". We must not be football, otherwise anyone can play with us.
Hope you got answer. These are perception of our Team members upon which we lead our life. Still if you think,it's useful then you can use it. Be scientific.Don't say Yes what we say or Don't say No. Try and apply in real life situation.Then give your view.
Ok
Thank you
Prayers and Peace
Sid-Srujan Team
Thanks for the suggestion and what will if the one is your friend.
DeleteYes, We have still now not discussed "What is Irritation"?
DeleteWe termed this name to certain reactions when something that is opposite to our choice or likings or expectations happen in the form of either words of certain person or any event. Isn't it?
So basically it is a reaction which is opposite in nature to us.
Friends know these things,but they repeat it. In fact as already we have discussed that it is not that person,but some other beings who do it. You may be thinking "What is this other being"?. I would not have told this term if you would not been an Indian.As you are born in India , so you can know and should know what is this.Because Indian thinking process go to the deep root of problems and takes out the simple solution.
So basically it is our own weakness that we respond to those forces by our inner reaction. Once you love that person,practically there will be no such situations. Because truly we all are one and that person also. Suppose your own one son is irritating your another son. And you know that you have created the confusion among them.How will be your reaction?. In the same way that person is also is one of your part teasing another one. Once you start loving that person ,, there will be no such incident and even if it happens also, there will be no such reaction or irritation in you.
You can apply formula 3,4,5 in above response.
Prayers
Sid-srujana
When i want something, i want it badly and when i got that then i do not get as much happiness as i expected.After some time this thing has no value for me.Though it is not applied to living being but it happens for anything else.
ReplyDeleteWhy it happens?
The passion to get those things immediately which we want is called Desire. It comes from our Vital being. It has tremendous power to get things done. But here you had a very good observation. You feel the same whether after or before getting desired fulfilled. Yes,it's true. If you closely observe "you can see that when some desire arises,just before the moment we remain in a very thoughtless state.There was no though,but only a passion to acquire. After fulfilling There also nothing special. Why?
ReplyDeletePerhaps, the thing that you really wanted is not coming through the objects which our vital chooses.That is why this type of feeling is coming. So you have to go deep to find out "What exactly you expect from that object"?
How mind and vital can know What our true being wants?
It needs just a thought to ask the this question "Do I really need it?"whenever something comes like this.
You know the Toy Horse. Child s sit on it and enjoy. They feel like going on back of the horse.Even if that horse moves no where,still they think they are moving and they enjoy. It is just the same situation. We know "it's a desire and we fulfill it , but we remain in that same platform or place as before and after fulfillment". No need to give up desire. But while fulfilling it, just remember that "it is that horse which will take nowhere but the same place". So enjoy the horse riding. Fulfill the desire, but consciously. Gradually another dimension of thinking will acquire the mind and without fulfillment when you just look at the object your desire will be fulfilled and it longer takes a long time to realize the reality of Riding stagnant horse."
It is very Good condition to reach your true being.
Prayers
yes before acquiring the object, I know I don't want it.Still my mind is not understanding. How to train mind to tackle such situation. Again the force is so powerful that I can't stop it and I cannot control my mind
DeleteFriend, as per our view , Never try to say your mind "No" , a sudden and rigid opposition may suppress it for few hours or days or months, but it"ll come with multiple of it's forces. You know "Suppose some water is flowing in a drain with a bad smell ,but if you want to stop it by creation of a rigid cement structure or by stone, What will be the outcome? It"ll flow over it. Then what to do? You can alternatively pour huge amount of Clean fragrance water to it which will not only dilute it,but also make it weaker. So the case to be dealt with thought of mind. But in above we have used a term "Vital", which is the root of Desire. To dealt with vital, you just counsel with it and talk with inner vital by own. No need to suppress desires, never do also. Desire is a very very necessary thing for progress. But fulfill it by knowing that "it is the horse which is stagnant and not carrying to anywhere else" . But, fulfill. Let say for example ," if someone wants to take rasogolas and if he is given the freedom to take as much, then he will take many more and the result may or may not come the next day. But if he is aware that it is that "stagnant horse", then after taking 10 to 15 rasogolas naturally his vital will no longer wish to enjoy it because constantly your mind will be giving the remembrance of "stagnant horse". So detachment through fulfillment , but being conscious of the action while fulfilling, otherwise we may be in the trap of Rasogolas. Ok, hope it'll may be helpful.
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Yes it is true that we cannot eat 10 rasgolas at a time,but after some day we cannot say that we will have no desire for the same. The same is happening for me.So what is the permanent solution.mind aware that it is that "stagnant horse" still want to have that. why?
DeleteWe have already told that "it not necessary to drop the desire". The more you think that "i don't want it, in fact you are thinking about it". Every time you think to eradicate it,which in turn makes you to think about it. So give no importance to these things. If they want to come and trouble you, let them come and seat in your room.But when don't give importance and not listen them,they will feel shy and go away. You know how to deal with unwanted people in real life. So also with the desires.
ReplyDeletePractice,practice and practice. They will come in one or another form,but practice to avoid.
You know Why it never listens, because it is not the mind to whom you can give logic, But it is Vital which never listens logic,It says i want mean I want,nothing else. Either you beat it or convince it or avoid it.
Prayers
sid-srujana
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